3 posts tagged “boyfriend”
The Boyfriend and I went to see this movie on Sunday. I have not been to see any local movies lately, and I must say, this was a great choice to encourage support for local cinema.
We were gripped by the mystique; the people behind A Love Story are great storytellers. It made us think one thing at the beginning, and then constantly rethink throughout the duration of the piece.
It evoked many emotions, many thoughts in me. I was sitting there next to boyf, taking in these three great sexy actors, listening to their diaologue, guessing their next actions. At the same time, I was thinking about me and the love that I am capable of.
I've been in the same relationship for the past 7 and a half years. Of course, we're thinking and probably convincing ourselves that this is it for both of us. When I watch great love stories, or read about them in novels, I sometimes think whether it really is so.
Can we make great sacrifices for each other? Can I? Is my love so great that I can endure the pain of letting go for the sake of what's right and what would be good for my partner?
I was conflicted at the end of the movie. Part of me wanted Ian and the mistress to end up together. For me, their love was greatest of the two. Perhaps it was made so because of the woman's deep love for the man, or because they did each other good. I can't believe it either, why would I side with an other woman?
It's just that I felt like the guy did not have that kind of love left for his wife anymore. There didn't seem to be much reason to stay married to her. In fact, he only stayed because the mistress turned him away, and because he learned that he was going to be a father.
And maybe Ian did find the love he once had for the mother of his child. Perhaps in the end, they really were a happy family. Or, maybe they were just friends, parents of the same child, having fun and spending his birthday in their private paradise.
Or maybe I didn't understand marriage. And maybe I somehow do now.
Falling out of love probably isn't enough of a reason to end a marriage. Because there are so many things that go into a marriage, so many factors to consider. I guess it's a tie that binds two people together, a vow to stick together no matter what. And I guess both people involved owe it to the marriage to give it one last try. Maybe that's what Ian and his wife did, and they succeeded. Maybe they found happiness and peace again.
I don't know, maybe that's what all potential mistresses should do: stay away. The husbands can't be trusted to walk away, eventhough they're the ones who have committments, so the woman has to be stronger and drive the philanderer away. But, what if, like in this story, the other woman is the one?
It's a very difficult situation really. For the wife, it won't be easy to forget. To look at the other and have full confidence that he won't stray, that he won't be looking at any other. And yet, you must do it. Because taking him back also means accepting that part of the past and trusting that it will not happen again. I know, I've been there. I forgave, I accepted.
But I didn't totally forget. I rationalize it by telling myself that forgetting would be tantamount to letting it happen again. But doesn't that mean that I have some wall built around me?
Take the mistress' ex husband. He fooled around, and they split up. It so happened that the woman he fooled around with, was the perfect partner for him. He truly loved her. She asked him, years later, if it would have been right for her to have fought to keep him. He said, he probably would have stayed, but he would not have changed. He would just have looked for another. And I think it's true because contrary to what they would have you believe: men are capable of monogamy. They can stick to one.
I think these thoughts because... I probably doubt what I have and who I have it with. But that's another love story.
I had quite an activity-filled Saturday. My calendar was never this full on any other May day, I reckon.
Weeks ago, my mom told me about their office outing, it was going to be a day trip to a resort in Laguna. She signed me up, along with my dad and my nephew E. Of course I said I'd go, I had not gone swimming yet this summer. Work has been filling my life lately and I knew I needed to de-stress.
Then plans were made for a get-together with college friends, in celebration of our first baby's (Iskra) third birthday. Without even thinking about it, I said I'd be there. Later realizing it was the same day as the Laguna stint.
Add to that the fact that the boyfriend's schedule was changed this week. We no longer shared the same off, which meant that date night (or day) would have had to be moved to Saturday.
And of course, there are my batchmates from work. We marked our second anniversary at NCO on the 23rd and though there's only 5 of us left from the original 24, we wanted to celebrate. They wanted it to be Saturday too.
One more thing to add to the mix
How on earth would I make room for all these in one day?
Here's what happened:
Early morning Saturday I uploaded my Monitors. Deadline is Saturday 3pm and there's just no way we'd be back home before then so I definitely had to complete the task beforehand. I slept through Friday afternoon (what a waste!) so when I woke up around 10pm, I knew I had to get working. Of course, being me, I didn't do it right away. I don't even remember what I did but I know I had to rush through my uploads from 3-am til 5. Oh, and I found time to load my gadget with good music too.
Leave for Laguna by 6am. Took a shower, packed my stuff, grabbed a bite and a drink and got in at the backseat of my dad's car and snoozed til we got to the SLEX stopover. I had to get another drink, and junkfood, for the day's stash. Popped two Advils too. I would not let a headache ruin my day.
Relax. Take in nature. Read a book. Listen to good music. As I feared, I wasn't able to take a swim because my friendly monthly visitor decided to overstay her welcome. I had to content myself to playing with some of the kids while they were away from the water; eat good food; listen to music; and catch up on my reading. I had a great time.
The kids on the left are Kian (2) and younger brother Liam (9 months). At first, Liam wouldn't come to me but when he eventually did, we played for close to an hour! He turned the pages of my book and clung to the post of the cottage to hold himself up on top of the picnic table. Kian was my dad's swimming buddy. Dad was missing Esban because he's always around when we go swimming but he couldn't go this time.
I liked the place (La Roca De Trinidad). It was a hot and humid summer day, but being under the trees, it felt quite cool. And it isn't expensive. I seriously am thinking about bringing my team there. Simple lang, inexpensive. In the end you'd be able to enjoy the company of people you choose to go there with.
It was an intimate outing even if it took two buses to transport everyone (plus us). Intimate because everyone felt like family. In truth, a lot of them really are family. There's Aunt Betsy whose daughter Liza is a dear childhood friend. Aunt Fran whose daughter Tania I grew up with, and whose family lived next door to my mom's a long long time ago. My grandparents and Aunt Fran's parents were buddies too. I'm sure there's even a blood connection there somewhere. There are so many others that we relate to not just because they work with my mom, but on a more personal level. You really have no reason to feel left out.
Being with them reminds me so much of what used to be and at the same time reminds me that I can still have it if I choose to. Be with the community, I mean, and not be isolated in my own little world. (Perhaps I'll write about it some other time).
Among pretty flowers. Late afternoon drive. Coffee and pasta. Rain, rain, go away. We went to those stalls by the highway that sold plants. I think we brought home about 6 different plants, some of which bear flowers. I convinced mom to get the Lily because the flower looked magnificent! The one we brought home is a younger plant and currently has no flower though. I'm sure it will bloom in due time.
We took a pit stop at one of those stations along the SLEX because my dad wanted to have coffee and pastries. I was hungry so I had pasta. By the time we were done, the rain was pouring really hard, we had to wait it out. It didn't take long though til we felt comfortable enought to run to the car and get a little wet.
It was long enough for traffic to build up though.
We arrived home later than I hoped - 7PM. My date with my girlfriends was at 7, I did tell them I was going to be really late though.
It was my youngest cousin Jomar's 12th birthday and just as we arrived, they were serving the food. That, I missed. I had to feed Zune and take a quick shower to get to Trinoma and meet up with the girls.
I didn't want to miss his birthday, specially since I've been missing out on hanging out with my cousins, and the kids. To think that we live in one big compound, it's just unacceptable. But the day was just too full to cram anything else unplanned in.
Late into the night with the girls, and our guys :)
This story will have to wait another day. But I will write it because I have so much to say about this reunion. I'll just let the pictures speak for themselves for now.
Today (saturday) was my last free day, the last day of vacation. I'd have to be back at work on Sunday evening. I'm not complaining, i'm still happy that they gave me the week off. I needed it to recharge. I didn't really get anything done, not even baking, but I was able to blog (a bit) and browse blogs, and sleep!
I don't think another week-long vacation is in the horizon, not in the next three months anyway. But that's okay, i don't have the money to spend on another vacation, not that I spent on this vacation. I just had to spend for other things.
We took Zune to the groomer's this afternoon. I have some pictures that have accumulated from since he came home, I just haven't uploaded them. I will before i get back to work tomorrow night.
for now, let me leave you with these photos that are a product of the Face Warp application on my phone :)
Here are the originals:
and here are the warped ones! My nephew spent quite sometime laughing over our pictures. The ones shown here are just samples, there are others. Last night, he kept on asking me warp everyone else's face! hehe :)
